My inhibitions were at an all time low in the summer of 1997. Nonetheless, my social confidence was higher than before. The sun and warmth crept into northeastern Ohio and brought with it an optimistic openness to new friends, new experiences, and greater reckless abandonment.
Jazz music became a new passion for me through my friend Leron Clink. He was an upright and electric bass player. He loved Thelonius Monk and Miles Davis amongst many others. We started to jam regularly and create a strange, compelling acid jazz/rock concoction. Leron was a Junior in High School and more familiar with eccentric characters. He introduced me to a new potency of marijuana called by the name of “kine bud”. The urban dictionary defines “kine” as Hawaiian for “excellent” (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=kind%20bud). This dope usually cost us about $50 for an eighth of an ounce, as compared to $20-$25 for an eighth of an ounce of what was called “shwag”, i.e.- low grade brick weed that was likely illegally shipped from South America. Sometimes shwag would also be cut with formaldehyde or liquid PCP, making it “wet weed”- a much more toxic yet potent form of it that would leave one feeling like rubber in addition to having a pounding headache.
Leron had a high-end appetite for pot, and always had kine bud. His weed usually was purple, light green, orange-red and sprinkled with a crystallized white glow. One or two hits of this stuff would send me babbling in riddles, in a comatose, borderline hallucinatory state. Not only would I begin to become psychologically addicted to being stoned, but my wallet would be continually more and more empty… so empty that I would have to sell a little bit of ganja to support my habit. It may be a downward spiral, but it is true that each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. (James 1:14)
I became an occasional “middle man”. This meant that I knew a few dealers that would get large quantities of marijuana, and I would supply my friends with it in smaller amounts. I would hook up any unsuspecting kid with weed, no matter how young or innocent they were. Because I was a persuasive type of personality I would even convince younger kids to try it. Any time someone wanted to buy a $20 bag I would get it for them, and then keep a little bit for myself. Marijuana was in a continual supply for me. I owned a purple bong and a pipe… people began to call me “Benny”. I began to wear tie-die t-shirts. I was establishing myself as a wanna-be hippie of the late 90’s within my little sphere of influence.
The music of the summer of 1997 was anything but hippie music. Ska music by “The Mighty Mighty Bosstones” was the new thing. Alternative rockers were pop bands like Matchbox 20 and Tonic. In my mind, the songs were cheesier than processed Velveeta. My friends and I were still into classic rock. We didn’t care what was happening in mainstream culture. Let me rephrase that… we thought we were ten times more artsy and cool than the conventional rock of our age. Wait a minute… I guess this meant that, by the standards of the 2010’s, we were “hipsters”! What has been is what will be, and what has been done is what will be done, and there is nothing new under the sun. (Eccl. 1:9)
Our band Mulberry Tree began to fall apart, because we were all going in different directions musically. We all did our own independent projects.
I attended parties often, whenever I had the chance I would lie to and manipulate my parents to get to them. I was still 15 and didn’t have a driver’s license, so I would always find ways to get a ride.
Once I was at a party at Caelie Shrugg’s house. She lived with a single mother who was never home. I have no idea what combination of substances I was on, but I know that it led me into the presence of Madiera- the girl whom Mitchell and I had been arrested the summer before for being drunk and breaking curfew. Somehow I ended up at an outdoor fairground with her, and I definitely was burning up in my maleness and youth. She came on to me heavy… almost taunting me for not making the first move. Madiera was a notoriously “bad girl”, and all of us sophomores knew it. She was a Junior in High School. She was experienced… a force of virile potency. She was wild and partied like crazy. Something in each of us younger boys was attracted to the wildness in her.
And the next thing I knew Madiera and I were together. In some summer haze of partying and riding the wind I looked… and there she was at my side.
Madiera and I were high all of the time. We were drunk for most of the weekend. The private encounters that would ensue were reckless and discombobulated. We were caught in a deep infatuation. I was disillusioned in believing this was a true ascent to masculinity.
Boys at the age of 15 feel this way in every generation. They become convinced that sex is a rite of passage into manhood. I can’t even speak long about the pressure my friends and I would place on each other to enter into this mysterious realm of spiritual and physical connection. Though I now believe that sexual freedom can only prevail guiltlessly within an exclusionary marital union, I didn’t believe this then. I got caught up in what my friends believed. Even the pure love that I seemed to feel for my childhood love Harmony began to fade into a deep memory. I wanted to make the rite of passage. God gave me up in the lusts of my heart to impurity, to the dishonoring of my body among others. (Rom. 1:24)
Madiera and I did share that intimate moment together, insecure and exposed, confused and unsure. I didn’t know what to think after it had happened. Did I even really know her? Did we understand each other? Were we really friends, or were we just confused children, bouncing around like pinballs in a teenage wasteland? I told her that I loved her… Maybe it would grow with time. Maybe we would understand each other.
The relationship continued into the late summer, where we eventually embarked on a camping trip and had an encounter with Fred the Coke Head.
We were on a campsite with a group of our friends. One of our friends, Meghan, had a Dad who was a throw-back hippie. He loved to drink beer and smoke pot. He didn’t seem to have a problem drinking beer and smoking pot with us- a bunch of minors. We set up camp and sat around the campfire all night, toking and drinking, telling wild stories.
Meghan’s Dad had a friend that apparently lived in an RV. This guy seemed higher than all of us, even at the height of our wildness. This was Fred the Coke Head. He was a 57 year old man who consumed drugs like he was a 21 year-old hippie from 1969. This caricature described his inner-child rather well.
We stayed up all night partying, and at the cracking of twilight Fred broke out some weed, which he said was “special”. He only invited Madeira and I to partake of it, because he said that we were probably the only ones who could handle it.
He lit up a joint, and we passed it around. Every hit made me cough like Dr. Dre in 1992. What ensued was a tingling euphoria that I had never felt before. It was as if I had taken a bite of Eve’s apple and soared into a realm where I thought I could be a god.
It’s important to say that I’m leaving many details out because I don’t remember them! That’s how constantly intoxicated I was in these days.
As the sun arose Madiera and I had another encounter in her tent. We were crazed by the combination of THC and cocaine which we had just inhaled in smoke form… the first time I had smoked “Chronic”. I had never felt so torn before. My emotions were with Harmony, but somehow I found my young, drastically un-sober body with Madiera. Our encounter ended, and we got no sleep after. We got in some strange, sleep deprived, strung-out argument shortly afterwards.
On the way home from camping I felt sick within myself. No amount of marijuana or alcohol or whatever else could mask this feeling. What was I doing? I was having a heavy physical relationship with this girl and I wasn’t even sure if I loved her or even really knew her! All we did was get high and fool around! Did we even know who the other really was?
I would have to break it off with her. I was afraid to do it, because I so thoroughly felt physically connected to her because of all we had done…